Korea, Day 12
Over the past couple days I've been hanging out more with Koreans instead of foreigners which has gained me a much more interesting insight into the culture. I've experienced the karaoke rooms, Korean restaurants and soju.
Yesterday, the hogwan boss took the whole elementary school staff out for dinner as a going-away party for 2 teachers. One, a Korean, transferring to a different branch, and a foreigner, who coincidentally happened to have his contract end on Friday and is no longer going to work. The partiers included the very same foreigners who staged a strike the previous day, and the very same Korean teachers who secretly applauded our efforts because they got the day off too.
Of course, a little background might put things into perspective. You see, even though the hogwan knew that the foreign teacher was leaving, they still hadn't found anybody to replace him. They even asked him to stay an extra 20 days. He rightfully demanded more money to stay for the extra days, and they politefully declined. So, the hogwan currently has a teacher shortage which will probably end up getting filled by one of the Korean teachers. Pretty sucky situation, but pretty typical.
For the party we went to a restaurant where you sit on the floor with your shoes off. This isn't the first time I've been to a place like this. I have no problem sitting on the floor since I do it a lot anyway, but some Westerners have real back problems when trying. Our dinner was quite a treat. We had bulgogi, which is basically barbecue beef. There's charcoal barbecues embedded right into the tables, and you cook the meat right on the table. When the meat is done, you pick it right off the grill with your chopsticks and dip it in some sauce and eat it. Very tasty. There was a type of barbecue sauce that was difficult to describe, and a very tasty sesame seed oil that does well with the meat.
So the boss, as ritual dictates, left the dinner early to pick up the bill, but he also left the group with some money to have more fun tonight. The other 2 foreign teachers that we were with opted out to go to the foreigner bars. I, for one, was not ready to give up just yet. We did however receive an invitation to go to the foreigner bar after midnight when things get more interesting.
So it was just me, and 8 Korean women out on the town. So what do Korean women coworkers do for fun? Well, I can only guess that what we did was similar to a "typical outing". I can only guess how the dual presence of a man and a foreigner changed behavior and ettiquette.
The first thing we did was go to the karaoke bar. Now this isn't quite what you expect. I had heard about these places and was interested in seeing one. Basically, a karaoke bar consists of a dozen or so private rooms that you rent for a while to sing your favorite tunes.... in private. Of course, you have your friends as your audience, but the whole idea of singing in private secluded rooms seems very absurd to me. Nevertheless, I went and I sang.
They mostly sung Korean music that I had never heard of. Most Korean music has a lot of techno-like features to it. This is in contrast to Western music which is usually instrumental in nature, only because it is easier to market with a touring band. Popular Korean music doesn't seem to have this restriction. Hence, there's a lot of unbridled digital music out there.
Now, I knew I had to sing. I could have easily opted out, and they would have understood. But dammit I came to Korea for a reason, and I'm going to get the most out of this trip. Very self-conscious and not very music savvy, I know I needed to get some more beer in me before I could do it. I drank and watched the Koreans make fools of themselves for a half hour. 2 drinks later I was singing "Under the Sea" from the Little Mermaid.
I also sang Queen's "Bohemian Rhapsody". I think they were more impressed by the first 2 since the rapid wording was very difficult for a Korean to perform. Finally, out of principle, I felt the need to sing some obscene angry music with Marilyn Manson's "Beautiful People". But somehow it didn't quite come out as I expected. Without good ol' Manson screaming into the mic, the song became really deflated and lackluster. It didn't quite give the impression I wanted to make.
By this time, the time on the machine had ended, and we were deciding what if anything to do. I made the tactful suggestion that we could go to the foreigner bar we were invited to at dinner. The name of the bar is Soul Trane which is one of several very popular places for foreigners. Soul Trane was actually the scene of some controversy earlier in the month. The police raided the bar because they were dancing without a dance permit. In addition, they forced a lot of people to give urine samples for drug testing. 2 foreigners were among these people, and being too drunk to think things through, they failed to realize that it's not legal to demand a urine sample and could have refused. So they got busted and spent 2 months in jail without being charged with a crime before finally being deported. One was actually smoking weed, and the other just got it second-hand.
So, details aside, we took a taxi to the famous Soul Trane to see what it was all about. The place isn't as big as I expected it to be with such a reputation. We arrived at 12:30 which was still pretty early for this bar. A band was finishing its performance, and there were scant people. To my surprise, Stanley, the guy who I stayed with the first few days, and also the guy who is our English-speaking liaison to the hogwan was sitting at the bar by himself. I went over and talked to him and found out that "he's working". Apparently he's here to try and recruit an English teacher since they still don't have someone to fill in for the recent shortage. It all seemed very pitiful.
By this time, our group had dwindled down to only 4 women and myself. We were then accosted by this really drunk Korean guy. Well, weren't really accosted, but we certainly were by Korean standards. He kept trying to talk to the ladies and kept touching their arms and whatnot. I was actually surprised to see the ladies very visibly uncomfortable and completely unequipped for the situation. This Korean had obviously been heavily influenced by Western culture since he was acting like a Westerner would when looking for women. Being a man and a foreigner, I sort of felt a chauvinistic and cultural obligation to take care of the situation. I tried to talk to the man and say they were with me, but I don't think he spoke much English. Obviously my territorial grunts were not impressing him, so I asked the bartender to help since she would likely be far more adept at handling situations like this. And it worked, he didn't bother us anymore and his friend seemed very embarassed since he gave us a deep bow of apology.
So it was 1:30am and the ladies were ready to go home. I, however, was not. I decided to stay and see what else happened. I talked with other foreigners there. Many foreign men in this country have Korean girlfriends. I was actually quite amazed by the number of good-looking women hanging around real butt-ugly guys. I hung out with a few geeky guys who all had Korean girlfriends and knew lots of Korean women. Of course, mind you that these Korean women they associate with are significantly transformed from your average Korean girl. They wear sexy clothes, act like Westerners, and have the appearance of having been around the corner once or twice. (I don't know what that means) Needless to say, I was amazed, amused, and disgusted all at the same time.
So the night drags on and both of my foreigner co-workers show up to the bar. (The 2 of 3 that actually drink and go out.) One was really quite drunk and it was interesting to see the party life-style that he's been living for the duration he's been here. Of course, before I knew it, it was 6am and the sun was up. I followed my drunk co-worker to see what happens at this hour in the morning.
I think the highlight of my day was meeting Johnny. Johnny was hanging out with my co-worker, so that's how I met him. I've heard quite a bit about Johnny because he's a recruiter for schools in this country. Johnny is a Korean-American, so he's speaks perfect American-English. This also makes him very easy to communicate with. Anyway, Johnny has a long history with the hogwan I work for. He worked there for a long time and developed most of the programs that we do currently. Apparently he was very successful and brought the hogwan a lot of business and reputation. The reason for his success is two-fold, 1) he's a competent person who speaks Korean and 2) he's not crippled by Korean culture and politics. Of course, I don't know how much of this is true. He could be a swindler just like the rest of the Koreans, but so far he's been the most down-to-earth Korean I've met so far.
Of course, the current issue right now is our hogwan's refusal to get a new teacher through Johnny. Johnny charges a commission which is not too unreasonable, plus he has tons and tons of connections and know-how. This is the reason why Stanley was at the bar earlier that night. Trying to side-step the middle man. However, I have to agree with Johnny that direct recruiting is a losing proposition. Most people in-the-know won't trust you, and people who aren't in-the-know will be resentful after they sign the contract. With all this uncertainty clouding the hogwan business, reputable middle-men seems like a great thing.
Of course, Johnny is a businessman too. He told me how once I finish my schooling, he could get me a professor position at one of the universities here teaching engineering. You don't even need a Ph.D. In fact, I could probably get one right now with only a bachelor's. But I don't want to, since I have plans for more schooling. Johnny also complimented me by saying that I'm one of the few foreigners in Korea who actually care about getting kids to learn. He said that I'm about 1 in 50. From what I've seen, this is probably not far-fetched, but you have to be careful about what people tell you in Korea. It could be just another line of bullshit.
So after having microwaved rice at the 24-hour Family Mart (7-11 competitor), I headed off to catch the subway with another drunk foreigner whose been in Korea for only 30 hours. A lot less time than I. Johnny apparently gave us bad directions since we never found the subway stop or we were just too drunk to follow the directions. We got a taxi to take us to the subway station. Very sad. Of course, I sat in the front seat with my seatbelt, and the new guy sat in the back where there are no seat belts. I joked to him that if we crashed, he would be the one to die and the driver and I would be saved. Morbid humor indeed, but you have to laugh at the absurdity of it all. The straps are there, but the buckles are pushed in between the cushions because they "get in the way".
So I got home and slept until 1:30pm. I then spent about 4 hours watching TV, trying to recoup. Uncharacteristically, I got completely obsessed with 2 English-language movies on TV. It was 5:30pm before they were done. I was supposed to call a friend at 5pm but slacked. I can't call cell phones from my room phone, so I had to go to a pay phone and make the call. At the subway station, there's 30% coin-op phones and 60% card-op phones. I've never actually seen anyone use the card phones, so its kind of irritating when you urgently need to use the phone.
I just remembered that I was asked to keep the events of this evening secret. I'm not entirely sure why, but I think its something of a cultural sensitivity of segregating the personal life from the professional life. Maybe I'll understand more later. What I can tell you is the things I learned about Korea.
I had the most delicious spicy chicken stew and drank soju, a very common drink in Korea. If you're not careful, soju will knock you out fast since it doesn't taste that strong. I learned that if you have an empty glass, it will be filled by someone next to you. Filling your own glass is not something you do. I'm not sure if its rude or just awkward. You also pick up the glass when its being filled. When filling, you hold the bottle with 2 hands if you don't know someone, or one hand if that person is your friend. If you don't want anymore soju, you have to leave the glass not-empty. This is actually the case for all food and drink in Korea, which leads to a lot of food waste. Not-finishing your food is a must in any dining situation.
Also, the person who was going to pay the bill flipped back and forth a couple times. I wasn't quite sure what to do in that situation, but I do think that the oldest person usually ends up being the one to pay. This theory coincides with my age being asked earlier in the evening. I'm not sure though. There was a lot of subtextual interactions going on that I don't fully understand yet, and it may be difficult to illicit explanations.
And finally, I went home and have spent the last couple hours in a PC bong typing on the computer, sitting next to Koreans playing the stupidest of stupid games. Koreans have such poor taste in computer games, its sad. They play mostly Korean remakes of well-established gaming genres such as Bubble Bobble, BomberMan, TankWar, quizzes, chatrooms, so on and so forth.
So now I have to figure out what I'm going to do with my Sunday and my extra day off on Monday.